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Learn to select your thoughts like your clothes

7 Jun

You have to learn to select your thoughts the same way that you select your clothes every day. Now that’s a power you can cultivate. -Richard from Texas, Eat. Pray. Love.

From YouTube – movieclips.com

Whether you love or hate Eat. Pray. Love., this statement rings true. For me, this is a daily struggle challenge. My goals for my career & education, my blog, my health, my giving back to the community and my family are big and lofty goals.

The only thing between me and reaching those goals are the thoughts that I choose everyday. Admittedly, it can be down to the thoughts that I choose each minute. There are moments that I think, “Well, I’m just too tired.” or “I can do it later.” or “It’s not fair!” or “Does it really matter if I workout or complete this blog post?” … Do you ever have thoughts like these?

Meditation is important to be able to get your mind to a place where you can choose your thoughts. There are several styles of meditation: in Eat. Pray. Love. Liz (Julia Roberts) attempts meditation a meditation room in India and then in Bali, her medicine man, Ketut teaches her a simple meditation – to sit and smile. I choose a Christian mediation. I call myself a stumbling follower of Christ because … well, though I desire to love others and work like Christ, I am far from it and I stumble. A lot. So, meditating on His Word can help me when choosing my thoughts.

Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. -Phil 4:8

Here are some thoughts I use to replace the negative thoughts:  “Today matters!” and “I do not wait until tomorrow to do what I can do today.” and “Working out is important and fun.” and “My future is my responsibility.” and “I rise every day and put my hope in God’s truths.”

Thanks to my friend Libby I. Juliá-Vázquez and More than Latina for sharing this photo and her response:

Make everyday significant!

It made me think:  if I choose the positive thoughts,each day will be significant and my fabulous outfits won’t go to waste!  🙂

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What DO I want to do?

6 Dec

identity crisis  –noun

1. a period or episode of psychological distress, often occurring in adolescence but sometimes in adulthood, when a person seeks a clearer sense of self and an acceptable role in society.

2. confusion as to goals and priorities: The company is undergoing an identity crisis.

   I am the company and it is in adulthood.  
   Now the phrase “psychological distress” sounds so intimidating to me.  My immediate response is “Oh Melanie, you are so dramatic!”    So depending on the level of intensity you receive the term “identity crisis” you  may think the same thing.
   I really am not the most dramatic person I know.   I just went through a period of searching for my purpose.  I wanted to know what I was good at because earlier this year, I didn’t think I had any kind of talent.  See, I am in direct sales.  The part about direct sales that makes it so appealing is: “here is our plan.  you follow it.  you will have success.”  So I followed the plan.  I had some success.  I wasn’t happy with the results in my business.  So I attended several workshops, etc. to help me reach my goals.  None worked.  Not because of the educator, not because of the plan.  They didn’t work because I didn’t know what the heck I wanted to do. (the workshops did reveal important concepts that I may share in later posts)
   One day I was committed to being the top performer and the next day I wasn’t.  Deep down, I didn’t want to be in direct sales.  I just wanted all the community and motivation seminars.  However, I had created my whole identity in reaching my goals in this company so “how could I just walk away?!”
   I’m no longer pursuing leadership in direct sales.  I will admit, every now and then, it does cross my mind.  Part of me is still over there.  I choose everyday that I am whole and complete the way that I am; yes, the way God created me.  So part of knowing that  is acknowledging that part of me is still over there.  And then, I keep looking in my current direction.  See, I have found that my talents are within ME, not a plan.  A lot of my talents were developed in my direct sales career.  (There is good news!)  So today, my crisis is averted. 
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