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Hooray for cheerleaders and friends

2 Jul

Do you have cheerleaders? I’m not talking about pom-poms and chants. I’m also not talking about “Yes men (or women)”. Tú sabes, the ones that will say yes to anything you say because they fear you or think it is the best way to win you over. I’m talking about people that will encourage you to “Go for it!” when you are unsure of yourself.

In the last few weeks I have become keenly aware of my cheerleaders in my life: my friends and family.

photo from sxc.hu

Recently I made an important contact because one of my cheerleaders literally said “Go for it!” Because I knew she was in my corner, I felt like a different person. I was not shy or unsure of myself. I did exactly what I needed to do, obtained the exact information I needed and secured that contact. I know with all my being that that interaction would not have been the same if my cheerleader had not been there.

Other cheerleaders have comforted me and encouraged me in this journey of motherhood. They’ve assured me that I can raise boys without losing my mind. They’ve complimented my boys for their manners. They didn’t let me sulk in a pity party when I had a bad mommy day. The really great ones, threw me a ‘minute-long’ pity party and then made me get over it!

Warning! Here comes the cheese: My biggest cheerleader is my husband. He has always been in my corner and has given me the room and freedom to be the best me I can be. Is it cheesy if it’s true?

One of the most special cheerleaders is the one who cheers me on in my walk in Faith. She didn’t judge  me when I recently shared with her how I have stumbled. Instead, she showed me how God can use that stumble and grow me even more. She reminded me that I am unique and created to do things that no one else was created to do. She revealed and continues to reveal to me God’s love through her actions.

I’m not writing this to boast about how great I have it. There have been times that I have felt alone and like no one was in my corner. And many of those times were my own fault because of my negligence to nurture an important relationship.

I have also been hurt by people who I thought were cheerleaders but at one point were not in my corner. It’s not easy to share a big goal with anyone. It seems to hurt more when you share that intimate detail and they don’t give you the support you are searching for in them. You are faced reality and forced to reevaluate the relationship. Remember, it is important to guard your heart.

There’s an old saying:

There are three kinds of friends … those who come for a reason, those who come for a season, and those who stay a lifetime.

You can call them cheerleaders or you can call them friends. Whatever you call them, I hope that you do have them to call. The best part of having them are the celebrations!

My prayer for you: “May you find the cheerleaders if you don’t have them, may your eyes would be open to the cheerleaders if you cannot see them and may you become someone else’s cheerleader.”

My prayer for me: “Lord help me to be a loyal friend. Make my ears ready to listen, give me words of encouragement and make me able to offer a helping hand. Bless me with opportunities to be someone else’s cheerleader.”

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Do It Anyway!

21 Jun

As part of a fabulous Twitter party last night about Latina Leadership, one question that was asked was:

Being Latina and being a woman, makes it challenging to be a leader. What should we do?

My answer: DO IT ANYWAY!

photo from sxc.hu/biewoef

Then, I had to look at my own life and see what I wasn’t doing anyway. I already knew the answer because I had been trying to see ‘around’ it for a while. I want to go to grad school. It is a huge goal, one that is hard-to-imagine-it-really-happening goal, you know the kind that makes you want to throw up! Yep, that’s when you know it’s a good goal. I don’t even want to blog about it because … ay Dios, … what if I don’t do it?! You all will know.

I’m taking my own advice and I am going to do it anyway. Well, I’m beginning the process anyway. (Don’t worry, many blog posts to come about my grad school journey.)

Mujeres, okay, hombres también, you know how easy it is to give advice to others than to take it for yourself? Well, I asked myself, “what if my best amiga said she wanted to accomplish an I-wanna-throw-up goal?”

Here’s what I would tell her:

DECIDE. – what it is you want and then, decide to start.

BE DETERMINED. – distractions will appear butAND stay determined.

DEDICATE. – yourself to your goal, dedicate yourself to you!

Courage is fear that said it’s prayers. -unknown

Thank you to New Latina (@NEWLATIINA) and National Hispana Leadership Institute (@NHLI)  for hosting the Twitter Party. Bicultural Mom‘s website has a list of all the co-hosts of the chat #latinaleadership. Thanks Chantilly, (@MFAMMAG)!

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Foodie Mamas are Sane Mamas

19 Jun

Mothers and wives: Always have something for yourself.

Since I have been married, I have always had something for myself – a dedicated time just for you. When I was in direct sales, it was a weekly meeting  – one night every week I knew I would be without my husband or kids. I’ve been blessed belong to a stay at home mom group who meets for playdates but more importantly, has one Mom’s Night Out once a month. And sometimes it’s Mom’s Night In just to hang out. Last week, I introduced you to another group –  Christian Women’s Small Business Association. Having these connections where you can talk to other adults with out being a *just* a wife or a mom will keep you sane.

Recently, I met another fabulous group of mamas, San Antonio’s Foodie Mamas. This group is mainly led by Bryanna or @oursommlife who is married to a sommelier. She knows her food, people! And wine! She, with help of other foodie mamas, pick a hot and fabulous San Antonio restaurant and about once a month, we meet for delicious gourmet food, wine and lots of laughs.

Admittedly, our family is not a ‘foodie’ family. We tend to stay on the side of chain restaurants or taquerías. When I first heard about this group, I thought ‘what a wonderful way to meet other mamas who blog. After all, food creates community’. However, I was nervous about  those fancy restaurants. THANKFULLY I went anyway. Because of these mamas, I have been to some of the best restaurants and eaten some of the most delicious and well prepared food since I studied in Spain! And I only had gourmet food there because our instructor insisted we eat ‘real’ food.

Our most recent lunch was at Bin 555 Restaurant and Wine Bar. Somehow the food is even better when the chef comes out at every course and describes the ingredients, where they came from and how they prepared it. Thanks Chef  Jason Dady for the special Foodie Mamas attention!

Bin 555’s Foodie Mamas Menu:

Texas Peach Mint Julep Cocktail

Lemon Cucumber-Cantaloupe Gazpacho with Shaved Fennel Pepper Salad and Micro Shiso

Salad of Summer Squash with House Ricotta, Patiio Basil and Charred Tomato Vinaigrette. This salad was my favorite course!! And it’s not easy to pick a favorite.

Fried Chicken with Marble Potatoes, Braised Kale and Honey Butter (shoulda been ‘Hon-ae Butta’)

Texas Peaches with Lemon Poundcake, Mascarpone and Basil. That’s basil powder! Pretty cool, eh?

The super star chefs at Bin 555. @ChefRFN @chefpjedwards @chefjasondady

The ladies  may argue whether or not #foodiemamas are sane mamas.

Either way, they allow just enough of my crazy to come out to keep me sane!

Thanks #foodiemamas for opening my palate, my mind and my heart! Cheers to many more brunches, lunches and dinners! ¡Salud!

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